An interesting piece through the neurotypical lens, it's a very different picture when you apply neurodivergent embodied realities. Would be useful to follow this with a piece reflecting on the differences.
How people handle power, boundaries, stress, mistakes, and vulnerable people can absolutely give us useful reads. However, behaviour shouldn't be used as a magical “true personality detector", unless we’re comfortable pretending people can be flattened into a single unpunctuated sentence.
Seconds can reveal a field condition.
They cannot reveal a whole human.
Too much online psychology quietly trains people to collapse context into certainty:
Sometimes you’re looking at trauma, burnout, neurodivergence, grief, pain, masking, overload, or someone having the worst Tuesday of their month.
Hummus (if we’re willing to reach for it):
Use observables to form hypotheses, not verdicts. Clarity earns its keep when it helps us investigate more honestly — not when it gives us permission to stop being curious about other humans.
Nice writeup
Thank you Offah .
An interesting piece through the neurotypical lens, it's a very different picture when you apply neurodivergent embodied realities. Would be useful to follow this with a piece reflecting on the differences.
I love thisi love this
Thank you for this article! This was so helpful
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Observables matter.
How people handle power, boundaries, stress, mistakes, and vulnerable people can absolutely give us useful reads. However, behaviour shouldn't be used as a magical “true personality detector", unless we’re comfortable pretending people can be flattened into a single unpunctuated sentence.
Seconds can reveal a field condition.
They cannot reveal a whole human.
Too much online psychology quietly trains people to collapse context into certainty:
“they interrupted me” becomes selfishness,
“they were impatient” becomes moral failure,
“they struggled socially” becomes hidden toxicity.
Sometimes the read is correct.
Sometimes you’re looking at trauma, burnout, neurodivergence, grief, pain, masking, overload, or someone having the worst Tuesday of their month.
Hummus (if we’re willing to reach for it):
Use observables to form hypotheses, not verdicts. Clarity earns its keep when it helps us investigate more honestly — not when it gives us permission to stop being curious about other humans.
Okay, this is a good piece.
Just one question, how do you check a person's behaviour when no one is watching?
Do you become like a secret agent or something?
thumbnail is ai, the writing looks ai generated too, this is absolute bullshit.
Kevin you have chatgpt syndrom !
Thank you for the article. I think some people will especially benefit from reading / listening to 1, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 & 9.